what all moms should tell themselves

It’s amazing how one can stumble onto new information, inspiring insights, recipes, creative how-to’s, and way way more just by browsing around the blogging world.  The blogging community is so inspiring to me…you can learn so much from someone’s experiences and knowledge through their words.

I came across Cori’s blog – mama miller parenting.  She makes amazing homemade items like baby wipes and laundry soap and a lot of DIY arts and crafts,  but one post that really stuck out to me was her Letter to a former self.

Cori wrote this to herself right before she was about to become a mother.  Reading this list made me think of how some mom’s are so hard on themselves sometimes.  Please take a chance to read this and remember what you do is amazing and we wouldn’t be here if it weren’t for you guys.  This is for all the mommies out there…

  • Let go. You have so many plans. I know you want to have a perfect all natural child birth. You want to nurse with ease and never have to place a bottle to your child’s lips. These wishes are noble but they won’t happen for you and it is OK. Mourn the loss of your plan but know that you will press on. You will have your baby and he won’t go hungry. Let go of your plans and embrace your story. Embrace the story that God has planned for you.
  • Be prepared to eat a lot of humble pie. You are about to be humbled thoroughly and completely. Your baby will not care about your level of education or how much money you have. He won’t care that snot grosses you out. You will still have to wipe up poop, suck boogers out of little noses, and put your needs (and hygiene) second. Be careful of statements of things you will never do as a parent. You may not do all of them, but you will do some of them. You will be the one getting dirty looks in the restaurant because your child is too loud. You will go out in public with spit-up on your shirt. You will occasionally give in to the demands of your small toddler/dictator. Practice humility now.
  • Be patient with those that give advice but trust your instincts. You will be bombarded with more advice than you ever expected. People will give you advice on everything from parenting to sleep patterns to how to take care of your body. It will be annoying. You will want to scream. Some will probably deserve it but most mean well. The ones who have been through pregnancy and parenting know how hard it is and just want to help. You don’t have to take all of it to heart. Glean the best bits to file away and throw away the rest with a smile.
  • It is not possible to “cherish every moment”. There will be moments you could do without. Moments where you are covered in poop and haven’t slept in almost a week. Moments where you can feel the stress rise up into your shoulder blades. People will tell you to cherish every moment but this is total crap. Instead, cherish a few special moments every day. Take the extra time to sniff the smell of freshly washed baby. Cuddle them a little longer. Write down the special moments. Remember the funny things they say. Instead of feeling bad for not cherishing every moment, do your best to cherish this stage of life.
  • You will be able to love another child. Once you see your son’s sweet face you will be convinced that you could never love another child that much. You will. When your daughter comes along, you will realize that you can love each of them more than you ever thought was possible. They will be two completely different people. They will try your patience in new ways and will grow your heart more than you can imagine.
  • Don’t let anyone ever tell you that you are “just a mom”. You will work harder as a mom than any other job you ever have. You will be a nurse, cook, maid, teacher, nutritionist, friend, jungle gym, pillow, disciplinarian, mad scientist, artist, pony, mediator, and counselor in the course of a day. “Mom” is a powerful title. Wear it proudly.
  • Don’t give up. God has plan for you and your children. You can do this. There will be tears. There will be days that you want to go bed and try again the next day. That is OK, as long as you get up and try the next day. Pray hard. Play hard. Cut your husband some slack- “dad” is as new to him as “mom” is to you.

Love. Always choose love. You can do this. You will do this.
Thank you Moms.

love,

auntie k

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Comments

  1. Thank you so much for your kind words and including me in your blog. 🙂

    • this post really touched me! I really connected with it because I see how hard it is to be a mom, my sister has 2. Sometimes moms just need someone to remind them how amazing they are. =)

  2. One thing my Grandma told me was not to lose myself (I should have listened). I got swept up in being “Mommy” that I feel like I’m going through an identity crisis at 31. I wish I had taken the time to write a letter to myself. This one was awesome!

  3. Aww, this is a great post! Thanks for sharing this! Mom’s definitely need to hear this every once in a while! 🙂

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